I had the privilege to witness one of my favorite coming-of-age rituals in McLean Youth Athletics again this year, the 8th grade boys west division All Star game. These boys are all at the precipice of their teenage years, playing, some for the last time, with and against their friends and rivals from their youth sports experience. The cream of the crop, All Stars are the best 2 players from each team and represent those who have managed to find some way to coordinate those rapidly growing limbs or to compensate for the growth spurt yet to come. The awkwardness of the early teenage boy, a young bird spreading it’s wings for the first time, surprised at how far it can reach; pitted against the practiced skill of a child yet to experience waking up in a new form, all arms and legs. These boys have spent years competing together, in baseball and soccer, football, lacrosse and in winter, in basketball. For many of these boys, the next time they compete will be at the McLean/Langley High School Freshman games – which explains so much about the age-old rivalry and camaraderie between the schools.
These boys gathered, fifteen minutes before the game for those whose parents were on time. My son warmed up by running in the door 7 minutes before start time as I didn’t plan enough time to cross Dolly Madison at that time of day. There are no practices before the All Star game, no real time to learn plays or to get used to your teammates. Everyone brings their jersey from the season; half the kids wear them with the “white” side out, half with the “dark” – blue, green or black. The teams have formed, white vs. dark. The best part was that this game didn’t count. Playing this game was the reward for all their hard work; they are already the All Stars. No trophy, no prize, they are here just to play, play hard and test their skills against the best of the season – and to have fun.
And they had fun. The poor Referees, challenged by the enthusiasm of boys being able to try the risky plays that wouldn’t have been prudent during the regular season, were tested in keeping the game safe and injury free. These players exuded electricity – quickly evaluating their teammates and opponents to their advantage, delighted in the responsiveness and true competitiveness of the group; they literally sparkled. They congratulated teammates and opponents alike for great moves, laughed and played hard. The fun was contagious and filled the gym with good cheer and the thrill of the sport.
Very early in the first quarter, I noticed an odd phenomenon. The “Dark” team was pulling ahead, by more than 10 points. A casual observer (I have no sport skills in picking winners), I was amazed that one side seemed so dominant, when the game is planned very carefully to equally match the talent. I sat back (on the floor as there were no bleachers) and tried to pay attention to what the difference was between the two groups. Both had very talented players, both were enthusiastic and spirited; both had impressive “moves” and plays. By the end of the second quarter, when the coaches began subbing kids in and out, it became apparent why the Dark team was still significantly ahead. They were communicating, and trusting the information they were receiving from their teammates. Each player was letting the ball handler know when they were open, warning of opposing players’ approach, and their teammates were listening. It was a two-way communication, send and receive, grunt, word, look, and waves. By the time the refs threw in the towel and called the game 15 seconds before the clock ran out 4th quarter, the Dark team was well in the lead.
So, this is a nice story, but what could it have to do with Real Estate? Each client I help, each family, becomes a team in pursuing a goal, not to win or lose, but to achieve a desired outcome. This team needs to work together on many different levels in order to achieve the highest reward for the effort whether buying or selling, or both. In my experience, this collaboration is most successful when all members of the team are open to expressing their opinions and in listening to their teammates. All the experience and dedication I bring to each situation doesn’t matter if I do not intimately understand your goals, dreams and desires. For me to understand your goals depends on two specific actions; (1) for you to express your thoughts and feelings and (2) for me to listen and to care about your viewpoint. Like the boys playing basketball, you need to feel you can trust me and follow my cues in making your dreams come true also. Without that trust and communication, it won’t matter how much we want things to work – we will operate like the “White” team, with a lot of skill, enthusiasm and dedication; independent of each other. It may be fun, but we would achieve a better result if we could practice the communication and trust exemplified by the “Dark” team.
I look forward to getting to know you and working together as a team as much as I look forward to the McLean/Langley Freshman basketball game next year. Please give me a call and let’s get started on our successful Real Estate season together! My direct number is (703)304-0548 or email me at JenB@JenBsells.com .
Keller Williams Realty
6820 Elm Street, STE 100
McLean, VA 22101
(703)304-0548 direct
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JenB@JenBsells.com
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Jennifer Bargerstock, SFR